I'm an old-fashioned kind of gay guy. I think the top should make the first move.It's something I feel pretty strongly about. I'm the bottom (and more than a little submissive anyway). I think the top should be more proactive in expressing interest in a guy like me if things are going to go anywhere. That's not to say I won't show interest or initiate a bit of sensual fun at times, mind you. I'm quite good at doing that and enjoying it.
But when it comes to actually getting the ball rolling -- especially in the early stages of the relationship and the pre-relationship phase -- I think the top should pursue, suggest I come over (or we get together or whatever). I think he should either start the sensual touching at that point, or at the very least pick up my hand and put it where he wants it as a way of suggesting that it's time to do more than cuddle.
To be honest, part of this is simply because right now, I'm tired of making all the moves with the guys I've known. It's left me wondering if any of them really want(ed) me that way, if they were really interested in me. It's doubts and questions in my mind that could be alleviated simply by the other guy taking hte initiative and starting something. In other words, it'd be nice if the other guy would make some effort and even take a little risk.
Because I get the impression that at least one of the guys is shy and nervous about making the first move. I think he's even a little worried about things not working out or me rejecting him (though how he could think that at this point is beyond me). And I totally get that. I worry about those same things too. All the time.
But at some point, a guy needs to get past that and take the chance anyway. I know I have. I've taken my risks. So know it's the other guy's turn. So any shy tops who are reading this, please take note. If you don't take at least a little chance, the guy next to you may just decide you're not interested. Or he may just decide it's not worth it if he has to put so much effort into drawing you out. Either way, you could end up missing out on something great. So consider gritting your teeth and getting your move on despite your fears and shyness.
