Expanding my social network and scene options.

I decided not to get with Pianoman yesterday.  I just decided that no matter how good it would be, I wasn't in the mood for no-strings sex, especially not with someone who's not into me so much as into the idea of having sex with whoever is available.  Granted, I probably should have contacted him to let him know I had decided not to hook up with him.  Instead, I just didn't contact him again to make definite plans.  But then again, he didn't contact me or follow through, so fair's fair, right.

This is not a color you're likely to find in Manly Bar.

I ended up going to a new bar last night.  I'll call it Manly Bar (yes, this post will call for some updates to the score card), since it caters to guys into leather and bears.  Last night was a night mostly for bears (and guys who like bears) and sponsored by local bear group.  Management told me about the event a week ago and thought I'd be interested.  I mentioned that I was considering going earlier yesterday and Sassy Waiter really pushed me into going.  So I showed up around 9pm.

I was a bit nervous going to a different place where I didn't know anyone.  I mean, I want to get out and meet people, but I have a problem just starting conversations with random people.  Fortunately, that problem resolved itself when I ran into Nicely Neurotic, a friend of mine who I tend to know from a more professional setting.  So I walked over to say hi to him, and he gave me a surprising favor.  I ended up spending my time there hanging out with him for the most part and he introduced me to about a half dozen other guys there.

Granted, Nicely Neurotic saw what he did slightly differently.  When I told him that I appreciated the fact that he introduced me around and made things much more comfortable with me, he responded by saying, "Yeah?  I was just being a friend."  He seemed to find it weird that I considered it such a big deal.

I suppose he's right.  Good friends do things like that.  I guess the problem is, I'm not used to being out at bars and in other social settings with good friends.  I've usually gone to Home Bar with people who just don't think think of simple things like making introductions.  Well, Management and the waiters have when they can.  But I also usually see them when they're working, so they really can't play social butterfly.

So having Nicely Neurotic around gave me a chance to meet people, be friendly, and be charmingly witty.  Plus it gave me someone to tease, which went over well with one of his friends.  One of his friends even started playing with my chest.  I wasn't really into him, but it felt nice.  Plus it was one of those rare moments where I felt a guy was actually enjoying my body because he liked it, rather than just looking for a hole to get off in.  So I think I'll be going back to Manly Bar.  Who knows, I might even ask Nicely Neurotic to let me know when he's going again so I can hang with him, at least until I get to know some of the other patrons well enough to not need him to feel like I have a connection.

I only ended up staying about an hour and a half.  I'm not sure why I left when I did.  I was having a great time.  Well, I know why I left.  I was getting restless for some reason.  I just don't know why I was getting restless.  I was restless most of the night.  Even when I stopped at Home Bar after leaving Manly Bar,  I felt restless.  I ended up going for about a ten minute walk around a few blocks while I was there.  I think I was just in a mood where I wanted to be on the go.

Manly bar will be having another event geared toward bears next month.  Hopefully I'll be more calm and able to stay longer that time.